Over the last month or so I have been reflecting a little bit on my needs; my needs as a mom, and a wife. What do I need to do for myself to make sure that I can be the best mom and the best wife I can be? I realized I need to start taking care of me a little. I'm sure I can fit it in somewhere between bath time and diaper changes, dishes and laundry but even if I can't I need too. I need to put my feet up sometimes, read a good book, watch a meaningless television show but what I need most is my friends. I have always been a social butterfly and am so aware of this as I watch Zaya smile at strangers and try to meet everyone she can even though she can't even talk yet. She is definitely my daughter. But I have always been energized by people, by great conversations over coffee, and loud music to dance to with friends. It's just who I am and the longer I ignore that the less energy I feel.
I'm grateful today for friends who have stuck through this crazy twin journey with me. I don't have much time to talk on the phone, I rarely make the first call, and when you’re with me I'm usually a little distracted. Jenn has been the greatest at understanding this journey. She delights in my babies and is so understanding and encouraging to me as a friend. She is always good for a laugh and will always help out with whatever I need even though she hasn’t changed a diaper yet. She’s the greatest though and I need more of her in my life. There is something stress relieving about friends. I need to make more time. I need to invest in my friend’s the way Jenn has invested in me.